It only takes one to spoil it for everyone

Men can make some serious mistakes while dating, and it screws over every guy that wants to take a shot at the girl later.

Women are trained from a young age that men (that we are not dating) are evil men looking to hurt us. They are out to stalk and violate us, and that a protective man can be an abusive man. We carry rape whistles, tasers, pepper spray and completely inconvenience ourselves in order to prevent you creepy, horrible men from getting us. This is all pretty much despite the fact that most women are raped and abused by their boyfriends, but that's beside the point.

You men need to realize that it is easy to creep us out and bother us, and it's easy to be incredibly clingy and obsessive. It's not your fault, but this will hopefully help to know where we're coming from sometimes.

I had a boyfriend that was clingy. He wanted to hang out with me everyday, spend every minute I wasn't at work with him. He didn't want me to spend time with my friends and would constantly be in contact with me. One day I told him I had to study and write a paper, and during this studying and paper writing, I got lunch with a friend. I came back to my dorm to find that this guy had stopped by without notification, went to my neighbor's dorm room, and hung out there for over an hour while waiting for me to get back. It was weird. It was creepy. It was clingy. I broke up with him after he started to cry because I wanted to hang out in a group with my friends and him. He said "You should want to see me not them!!!"

I can never date a clingy guy ever again. Ever. I do not go on a second date if a guy is showing a sign of clinginess. I will dump a guy and cut off all contact if he shows signs of being clingy. These signs are:
1. Constant calls or texts (give us a chance to miss you please).
2. Showing up at times where we've told you we didn't want to be bothered or had other plans.
3. Demanding that we break off plans with people other than you.
4. Indicating that you have no other purpose in life than to be around a girl (spending your whole day waiting like a puppy for a girl to finish something so you can be around her the minute it's done).
5. Getting jealous of male friends, male coworkers, ex boyfriends that aren't in the picture, etc.
6. Demanding to join in on activities that she usually does by herself, such as going to the gym or the gynecologist.
7. If we have to give up things like showering alone because you don't want to be by yourself for 15 minutes, you're pretty freaking clingy.

It sucks, I've probably turned down some really nice guys who just wanted to spend time with me. However, I like my alone time. Sometimes I just feel like I don't need to see you on a daily basis and sometimes I have things to do other than be with you at that moment. It's not about you, but we have weird things to do, such as get skin scraped off of our feet and read girly magazines. Because of one weird clingy guy that just could not get a handle on his dependency issues, I have probably hurt some good guys that didn't deserve it, but I CAN'T do the clingy thing again, I refuse.

There are girls that have dated some creepy freaking dudes. Guys that have slept on their doorstep all night waiting for them to leave the house that way they can't avoid them. Guys that call them in the middle of the night to make sure they know where they are. Guys that get names tattoed on them after three dates. Guys that have more than 3 pictures of the same celebrity put up (kind of like a shrine). Guys that threaten to kill themselves if you ever leave them.

Once a girl finishes dating a creepy guy, she will desperately avoid dating another one. That means that when a guy shows the smallest sign of being creepy, she'll drop him.

Yeah, one sign shouldn't be a deterring factor, but we've personally learned how far a guy can go to make our lives a creepy and clingy hell.

So next time a girl suddenly drops off the face of the earth, refuses to answer your calls or reply to your texts, seems uncomfortable being in the same room alone with you, when you're around her friends they kind of whisper and start to squirm, you have fallen victim of a "spoiled woman" who is on the alert for crazy.

You might not have done anything or you might have, but for the most part, any more contacting you do of this woman will only result in her believing that you're way creepier or clingy than you actually are. You need to let this one go. Don't over analyze it, don't beg her to tell you what you did, just let it go. Better luck next time.